If you want to overcome your shyness and social anxiety then the following self-improvement advice can be of great help to you. You must remove the negative thoughts and pictures that you have created in your mind. Dont think of yourself as a loser and instead visualize yourself standing confidently, smiling and talking in a clear, pronounced voice to a stranger you feel uncomfortable with. Be a positive person and think positively. You must stop thinking only about yourself all the time. Dont bother about what others think about you. You cannot have instant rapport with everyone, and whats important is to try to learn something from every bad experience. You must stop making use of safety measures to avoid any negative situation that might come your way. Youre only depriving yourself of learning experiences when you do this. When you feel anxious and nervous you should take deep breaths while meditating. Remember, there are many people who suffer from shyness or social anxiety and you are definitely not alone. Remember also that many people who have suffered from these conditions have indeed overcome them.